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Evaluation Item
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First Date:
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Need to grow(ü)
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FinalDate:
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Need to Grow(ü)
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Score
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Score
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1
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I
have a good relationship with my family
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2
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I
plan ahead to spend time/call my family regularly
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3
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I
have worked through tensions with my father/mother
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4
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I
maintain a real home environment for myself not just a place to sleep
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5
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I
am content to remain single
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6
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I
am at peace about looking for a husband/wife. I have trusted God to
provide a godly partner for me and am careful not to make soul connections
with non-believers of the other sex. Or I am committed to remain single for
the sake of pioneering the Kingdom
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7
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Apart
from natural (God-given) loneliness, I consider myself a whole person
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8
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I
utilise my singleness to give greater energy into
the Kingdom of God
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9
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I
utilize my lack of one love to more deeply care for many people
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10
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I
have a circle of friends who give me emotional support when I am in need
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11
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I
have group contexts where I can meet people from whom I meet reasonably
expect to find a mate if that is the way the Lord leads
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12
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I
do not engage in counseling/ministry on my own at deep levels with singles
of the other sex, and avoid soul ties that are inappropriate
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13
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I
have learned to treat the other sex not as objects but as real people
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14
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I
am making responsible plans for care of my elders, my future family and
myself
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15
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I
can give and receive love
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16
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I
have memorized 20 passages from the word to use when desires overwhelm me
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17
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I
have an accountable relationship with a peer or mentor that I can call on
when faced with temptations
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18
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I
know which situations to avoid and which to run from
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19
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I
am careful to not be in situations of being alone in compromising contexts
with someone of the other sex
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20
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I
am often playing with children, so that if I have children in the future I
will be a loving parent
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Total
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